Creating More Meaning in Your Everyday Life

Creating More Meaning in Your Everyday Life

by | Feb 17, 2026 | Blog | 0 comments

I’ve been sharing with my meditation group some of what has been coming through lately around meaning.

Right now, many of us are moving into different ways of relating to ourselves and to the world — and it’s not a comfortable process. For some, it may even feel impossible: to shift gears, to set a new pace, or to completely overhaul your life.

One message is becoming increasingly clear:
How are you bringing more meaning into your everyday life?

Why Meaning Matters More Than We Think

I’ve noticed in my own life that some habits are outdated. They don’t truly support my energy or the way I want to be living.

Things like:

  • Going to bed too late
  • Putting too much on my to-do list

These are parts of my life I know need to shift. But before anything can change, I have to ask myself a deeper question:

Why am I doing what I’m doing?

Shifting Your Way of Being (Without Repeating Old Patterns)

Trying to move into a different way of being often requires us to sit with our current way of being first.

Otherwise, we risk repeating the same core pattern in the new shift we’re trying to make. When that happens, the issue becomes foundational. And when our foundations are shaky, we can’t really build deeper meaning on top of them.

This is where self-inquiry becomes essential.

When Goals Replace Meaning

Sometimes we become so goal-focused that meaning quietly slips out of the picture.

We might achieve what we set out to do and then feel strangely empty. The achievement doesn’t land in the way we expected.

It’s like seeing a shiny new pair of shoes, working really hard to buy them, finally wearing them… and still feeling unsatisfied. Before you know it, you’re back in the same cycle, chasing the next shiny thing.

Without meaning, even success can feel hollow and before you know it your own life becomes draining.

How to Create More Meaning in Everyday Life

We step out of this loop by consciously bringing meaning into our daily experience and not just into big milestones.

Here are a few gentle invitations:

  • Reflect on what brings meaning into your everyday life, not only when things are going well or when you’ve achieved something
  • Build a relationship with ordinary moments by allowing yourself to be fully present
  • Create space in your day to feel your experience, rather than rushing past it (I’ve been doing this with my morning cup of tea or when I am home on the couch with my dog)
  • Be mindful of how you are being, not just what you are doing

Meaning isn’t always found in dramatic change. Often, it’s woven into how we meet the quiet moments of our lives.

How else do you feel we can create more meaning in everyday life?

In love and gratitude,

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Finding Meaning in Everyday Life: Moving Beyond Goals to Deeper Purpose
Finding Meaning in Everyday Life: Moving Beyond Goals to Deeper Purpose

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Destination Syndrome Keeps You Playing the Blame and Shame Game – What you can do to unhook yourself

Destination Syndrome Keeps You Playing the Blame and Shame Game – What you can do to unhook yourself

by | Sep 2, 2025 | Blog | 0 comments

You are here, right now currently. Sitting on your chair and reading this blog post. You arrived here. You’ve made it!!! 

And you’re thinking…

‘’But it’s not the way I want it to be – I haven’t gotten that promotion as yet.’’

Or

‘’I don’t have the bank balance that I thought I would have at this age.’’

Or 

‘’This is not where I am supposed to be.’’

How many times have you expressed your dissatisfaction with where you are in your life? 

When did you start that nasty habit?? 

How do you know something should be happening? BECAUSE IT IS HAPPENING! (Byron Katie)

Often, we look back with so much disdain for our past and our present that the future becomes something so out of reach, so unbelievably impossible. You’ve done this if you’ve ever criticized your body at any earlier age of your life, and you keep doing it regardless of how much you’ve worked on it – it’s a habit formed.

It sends a very specific message to your brain and to your future: ’You will never have me because you will never be good enough to deserve me.’

So, what do we do? We march on with self-loathing and crippling cynicism not only for our future but for who we are as human beings. That state of chronic self-loathing keeps us in a constant mode of chasing, despite our achieving the thing we’re chasing.

What are we chasing? A better future potential, better life circumstances, to be more than what we are right now? 

Hopefully we all want to improve and grow and have better tomorrows. Hopefully we are all leaning in to expanding ourselves further than where we are today.

When we do that from a place of embracing our present just as it is, acknowledging where we’ve come from and all it took to get here, when we take the time to stop and appreciate our process – this is a state of deep reverence for who we are, a state of wholeness.

When we have destination syndrome, we chase one achievement after the next like they’re Ticktacks! We move quickly without pausing to acknowledge our growth. We are never satisfied with where we find ourselves and before we have truly received one accolade, we’re already thinking about our next conquest. We’re chasing a loving future without loving our present selves. Does this sound familiar?

If it does – amazing! You’re bringing awareness to this pattern. Why do we do this? Somewhere within us we hold a deep and painful belief that we are not good enough and we’re only good enough when we are accumulating and doing – we live in a state of shame for who we actually are. It is a state of not enough-ness and unsafety. If this is you here’s what you can do:

  1. Ask yourself ‘what would happen if this is as good as it gets, would I still love myself?’
  2. What would I tell my child self who didn’t believe he/she was good enough?
  3. Write down all the things you have achieved, both externally and internally, until this present moment.
  4. Take a deep breath in and allow yourself to receive this list and how far you have already come without trying to think about your next steps.

 

The way out of the unending loop of shame, punishment and chasing is choosing to completely accept and feel the discomfort in NOT chasing BUT pausing to acknowledge what you have already done. This will move you further along that you can even imagine!

In love and gratitude

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Meditation Mascot

Meditation Mascot

by | Aug 19, 2025 | Blog | 0 comments

I have a meditation group on WhatsApp, where I share daily meditations and insights. Every day, I go outside to meditate with the group and one day I noticed a little lizard sneak out of a branch in a tree where I meditate.

The first time I saw him, I noticed he had his tail bitten off. All that was left of his tail was a tiny stub at the end of his body. I felt bad for this little guy. I saw him lick, what was a fresh wound. After having my tail bitten off, I’d be a little more hesitant at anything that moved, but not this little guy – he was curious – and stayed with me while I meditated. 

The next day, there he was again! He came out as soon as I arrived and sat with me while I meditated with the group. He hasn’t failed to show up a day since. I was so surprised and delighted at the sight of him every day. 

Now, there’s one thing I know about lizards – they can regrow their tails even though it might take some time. He had resilience! Here’s a little dude that had been through an ordeal. He was probably chewed up and spat out by some curious feline and escaped with his life intact! Not only that, it’s happened fairly recently and despite his ordeal he wasn’t afraid of large predatory mammals – unaffected and possibly even curious about my presence. He showed up every day despite his ordeal. From me, he gets 5 stars for being so courageous.

I learnt so much from this lizard. We all go through things that sometimes that are devastating, things that completely throw us off our center and shake us to our core. Sometimes we barely escape with our lives. What makes us resilient isn’t perfection. We don’t always have a glow-up, sometimes come back from it having a lot less to work with, but in our moments of challenge, choice is revealed to us – the choice to find our inner Moxy, the choice to tap into our inner fight. It’s doesn’t look loud necessarily, its not dressed up extravagantly, it’s hardly boastful. 

It’s is a quiet inner rebellion, a flame that refuses to be put out, a desire to move with all the limitations and pain and to see what comes through despite it all. I call this place curiosity. It’s the space beyond the suffering of our afflictions. Our lizard could have rolled over and said ‘That’s it! I’m done now.’ He could have rolled over given up or he could have had a massive hang up about the fact that he no longer has a tail but he didn’t. 

When life seems impossible can you find choice inside of you? Can you choose your attitude, your demeanor and your response despite what has taken place? I’m not saying it’s easy to – in fact I’m saying the very opposite of that – it’s an incredibly difficult thing to do! Why? Why is it so hard? Well, you have to get beyond yourself, you have to get beyond your situation and find the part of you that is infinite. How do you do that? By surrendering all the parts of you that think you’re not! 

Your true power is in letting go of how you think it should be. When you let that story go, you allow everything that is infinite to be born. Nature knows this and we are all in a deep process reconnecting to it’s wisdom and the wisdom of our own deeper knowing. 

I wish you the courage and resilience of a lizard who has just had its tail bitten off!

In love and gratitude,

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Down the Rabbit Hole

Down the Rabbit Hole

by | Jun 19, 2023 | Blog | 0 comments

Down the Rabbit Hole

Deep down you’ve known something wasn’t quite right inside. So you read a little and you understand a little more.

You decide – I don’t want to feel this way anymore. I must be able to fix it. So you reach out and find a professional to hold your hand through their process to understand a little more. 

You spend a few months, maybe a few years. Maybe its helped your mind understand that maybe your parents yelling profanities in your face had a little to do with it and your first love broke your trust in the opposite sex and that definitely had something to do with it. It’s still gnawing at your insides – something still isn’t quite right.

You decide – I don’t want to feel this way anymore. I must be able to fix it. So get a little help from your search engine and you find something else. You book your first consultation for whoo-whoo energy healing session with a lady who burns incense and judging from her room –  has an endless fascination with colourful rocks. You don’t buy in but you’re willing to try it. After all you must be able to fix it.

You spend a few months, indulging her whimsical dispositions. You feel a little different, maybe a month, maybe two. You saw your folks last December, it comes up again. I must be able to fix it. You hear of something that will definitely help for sure, something that is a little bit out of character. A microdose of an unfamiliar substance. It sounds like a far-reach, but if it comes in a pill form – it surely works. You gather details together with the product. Its been a few good months, you’ve been better and then your partner wants a divorce. You feel it again. Something isn’t quite right. I must be able to fix it.

Your spouse leaves. You feel worst off than you start off. The pain is unbearable and your parents screaming profanities had nothing to do with it this time. There are no more pills left, you gone as far as you can go and the low you’ve hit tops rock bottom. You get under the covers and stay there – it’s been 3 whole days of unrelenting tears and pain turned to body ache. You can’t eat – you’re too busy digesting all these emotions. It comes through, your lifetime of denying these feelings. You offer them up on your alter, one by one as they pour out of every pore

Two hands reaching out to each other, symbolizing openness and connection in human relationships.
A person in deep thought reflecting on communication and connection.

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Receiving Means Giving

Receiving Means Giving

by | Jun 5, 2023 | Blog | 0 comments

A wise woman told me once that is it important to give if you want to receive. I was fresh on my spiritual path and I had internalized this concept in a very surface-level way. So I thought: ‘Hmmm ok, I want certain things for my life and it will be pretty easy to give things away.’ A very normal and transactional perspective of any twenty-something. 

It was only in my thirties that I really started understanding the concept of giving and receiving. Sometimes we’re unbalanced in one or the other. I couldn’t understand why I was giving so much, living with such an ‘open heart’ but I wasn’t quite receiving yet. I longed to break the salary bracket I was stuck in, I wanted to experience more satisfaction in my relationships, and I wanted a better life experience in general. I gave and gave and gave, sometimes until I was completely empty. 

In my thirties, I realized that the practice of giving was only half of the journey. I would need to travel the other leg of the journey too, and that was the right of receiving. I use ‘practice’ because there is a certain amount of intentionality implied and ‘right’ because there is a certain amount of self-acknowledgment implied. I had realized that my heart was only open to the outside but to myself, it had been shut. I did not know how to receive it, it was a foreign concept to me.

It meant I needed to go a lot deeper with myself, to get real with myself about how much I thought was okay for me to receive. I took a closer look at the opportunities that were given to me by friends, so that I could receive from them and realized I wasn’t really giving them an opportunity to really give to me – I was doing a lot of the giving: of my time, of my energy, of the shiny gifts. I started noticing my behaviour with giving and receiving. 

I started slowly entertaining the idea of receiving, being gifted, and being taken care of. It was the most difficult thing to do. It brought up thoughts of being burdensome to my friends and family. It made me feel shameful, it made me immediately feel like I would be indebted to someone else. I could feel the discomfort in my body as I allowed my mind to imagine this possibility. I realized that I had been avoiding receiving it because it made me feel uncomfortable. Therein lay my work and I started removing all the distorted thinking that got me to believe it was not okay to receive too.

When we allow one without the other, we are closed off. The experience isn’t complete if we don’t experience the other side. If we realise that we are all connected and moving through this experience as one massive wave, we must also realise that when we give to others, we give to ourselves. You know how good it makes you feel to give to someone and see how it impacts them. This is what I mean. In giving to that person, you also get something from the experience. In the same way, when we receive from others, we receive from ourselves. When someone gives you a gift, you would have to be receptive to receiving that gift. There must be some sort of permission you give yourself on some level, in order to receive it. What permission or allowance are you allowing yourself to receive? It’s your giving to yourself. 

 

Once we allow ourselves to give and to receive, we come full circle with ourselves.

 

Questions To Reflect On: 

  • Are you open to fully giving from your heart?
  • Are you giving with pure intent? Or are you expecting to get something back? 
  • Are you allowing yourself to receive from other people and yourself? 
  • What feelings are you wanting to avoid by constantly giving to others?
  • What feelings are you wanting to avoid by constantly receiving from others?

In love and gratitude,

A woman's hands holding a flower, symbolizing the act of giving and receiving
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A woman in a meditative pose, reflecting on the balance between giving and receiving.

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